Addicted to prostitutes – Addicts may transfer one addiction to another

Some alcoholics that get sober will transfer their disease to another addiction like sex, food, or gambling. They justify their new addiction in their heads due to the fact that they aren’t using drugs and alcohol and they need at least something to check out.

What happens is some alcoholics get “dry” meaning the they put the plug in the jug but they haven’t had a change of character and they don’t work the twelve steps. They don’t live their lives on a spiritual path and still have the same old dysfunctional behavior. Sex addiction like pornography can get way out of hand like drug and alcohol abuse, the consequences could easily get worse.

Do prostitutes enjoy sex?

I highly doubt that any prostitute enjoys selling their body for sex. Most prostitutes in the United States are doing it either because they are a drug addict or someone is forcing them to do it.

Prostitutes in third world countries do it more so do to poverty and men from the United States go over to these poor countries and exploit that. Sex tourism is popular among men in places like Thailand, The Dominican Republic, and Costa Rica.

Where do sex addicts find prostitutes?

Prostitutes are mainly found online on sites like the erotic review, backpage, cityvibe, and humaniplex. The biggest one out there is the erotic review. My red book was another big escort review site but that one got shut down. Backpage was forced to shut down their erotic services section but all the prostitutes moved over to the women seeking men section and are still advertising and doing the exact same thing that got the erotic services section shut down.

Many of these web sites have reviews on prostitutes that potential clients can read. Going to see a prostitute can be dangerous. Someone could be waiting in the closet and jump out and rob a John or the prostitute could be an under cover cop. That’s why these internet review sites have grown so much in popularity. These Johns feel more comfortable seeing a prostitute with good reviews because they feel that they’ll be safe and not get ripped off or get arrested.

They also can read about the prostitute’s performance and if their pictures are accurate. They have a better idea of knowing what kind of situation they are getting into.

Scouring the internet shopping for prostitutes can be an addiction in itself like watching pornography and can take up a lot of time. It’s a way to check out from reality just like drinking or doing drugs.

It’s not only the act of having the sex that is appealing to the sex addict but actually going to see and have sex with a complete stranger can get the adrenaline pumping. Just like with drugs. It’s not only the act of doing the drugs but going to get them in a seedy neighborhood and possibly getting ripped off. It’s the dangerous act around actually doing the intended act.

Stopping sex addiction

stopping sex addiction is like stopping any other addiction like drugs or alcohol. You first have to admit that you have a problem and that your life is unmanageable. Then you need to get help. If you decide to get help and start to experience a change in character you will no longer be interested in just the animalistic act of sex with a prostitute and will instead desire to have a meaningful relationship. This is what happens when addicts start to grow spiritually, they change.

You will need help and you could use the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous and apply it to sex addiction. Just switch the word alcohol for sex. Most programs use the twelve steps but there are other programs out there that are more like group therapy and don’t come from a spiritual perspective. Any real addict needs help from a power greater than themselves because their mind is warped and they can’t do it on their own.

Reach out for help, get a sponsor, start going to meetings. A real addict can’t do it on their own and live a happy and joyous life. There are also plenty of books out there to help you on your journey other than the big book. Check out Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved. There are plenty of different books on Amazon. These are meant to be suggestions.




The Alcoholics Physical Allergy To Alcohol Set In Motion Is Hard To Stop

It says in the “Doctors Opinion” in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous that we Alcoholics suffer from a mental obsession and a physical allergy to alcohol. The alcoholics defense against the physical part is to refrain from drinking but if they decide to drink the alcohol they are in big trouble.

The mental disease is activated with the physical allergy and now the cravings are on. After the first drink it’s almost nearly impossible to stop. The alcoholic can try to hold on by sheer will power but the warped thinking doesn’t stop. The alcoholics doesn’t care or think about the consequences of starting back up again. The obsession begins and all the alcoholic can think about is taking the next drink.

As alcoholics we have a negative voice inside of our head that we have to fight on a daily basis. We can’t deal with it unless we go to God. For many, this is hard to do and figure out.

If you refrained from alcohol for a while and have done spiritual work the obsession to drink can be removed but if you decide to take a drink, you will be obsessively thinking about taking another one and you will not feel content until you actually do. An alcoholic listening to their thoughts and believing them is poison. They actively need the help of God and the fellowship if they are to live happy, joyous, and free.

Many alcoholics can’t take the warped thinking and after a while give up and end up in hospitals, institutions, or jails. This truly is a disease of dysfunctional thinking that lives in an alcoholics mind set out to destroy them. For some, it’s either the program of recovery, misery, or death.

We are all created in God’s image and God’s will for us is to be happy, joyous, and free. If you are truly an alcoholic and your life is important to you, become willing to accept a power greater than yourself to help you and try to talk to something other than yourself because if we talk to our warped selves we are in trouble.

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Under A-Rest By Paul Hedderman Reflections on the Twelve Steps

Paul Hedderman, founder of and author of The Escape to Everywhere, speaks publicly about being rooted in non-duality, zen and recovery.

What we attempt to do here is share about what we are not.
You just see there is no relationship.
The whole how and why of recovery is to quit playing god.
Who are you buying off by all your doing? The god of your mind’s making.
I’m not looking for relief for self; I found relief from self.
There is no see-er that is seeing.
The best way out is to realize you were never in.

Hedderman believes there is nothing for a seeker to do except just stop being a self.

Purchase Under A-Rest an examination of the 12 Steps, AA, and the illusion of a separate self that fundamentally drives all addiction. By Paul Hedderman

Dr Harry Tiebout – Psychiatrist That Identified Alcoholism As A Disease

One of the first psychiatrists to describe alcoholism as a disease rather than a moral failing or criminal activity, Harry Tiebout was one of the first to wholeheartedly endorse Alcoholics Anonymous as an effective force in the struggle against compulsive drinking.

In one of his early papers, Tiebout discounted the idea, common among psychoanalytically-inclined doctors, that there was a classic type of pre-alcoholic personality. In his view all of the personality characteristics associated with early alcoholism were manifestations of the tension state accompanying intermittent alcohol binges. These features included:

  1. An unconscious need or drive to dominate
  2. A prevailing negative, hostile feeling-tone
  3. A capacity for ecstatic peaks
  4. A sense of loneliness and isolation
  5. Feelings of inferiority and superiority which exist simultaneously in the individual
  6. A striving for perfection


Harry Tiebout
(from the left) Dr. Bob, Dr. Harry M Tiebout, Bill Wilson


This volume brings together, for the first time, some of Tiebout’s most influential writings. Many of these pieces–from explorations of the therapeutic approach to alcoholism to instructive discussions of the act of surrender so crucial to recovery–are seminal documents in the history, treatment, and understanding of alcoholism. Together, they represent the significant contribution of one man to the countless lives shaken by alcoholism and steadied with the help of Alcoholics Anonymous, psychiatric intervention, and the foresight and commitment of doctors like Harry M Tiebout.

Purchase: Harry Tiebout: The Collected Writings by Harry Tiebout (1999-09-15)

AA Comes Of Age – A Brief History Of Alcoholics Anonymous

Bill W. tells how AA started, how the Steps and Traditions evolved, and how the AA Fellowship grew and spread overseas. Nearly half a century has gone by since A.A.’s historic 1955 Convention in St. Louis, when the founding members passed on to the entire Fellowship the responsibility for the three Legacies of Recovery, Unity, and Service.

This book takes A.A. members and interested friends on a quick tour of the Convention, traces the history and development of the Three Legacies, and looks at A.A. through the eyes of some early nonalcoholics who influenced the Fellowship’s history.

AA Comes Of Age goes into detail about key players other than Bill Wilson and Dr. Bob that were pivotal into the development of Alcoholics Anonymous like Dr. Harry Tiebout, Sister Mary Ignatia, and Father Ed Dowling among others.

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The Power Of Now Summary – From Author Eckhart Toole

The main premise of “The Power Of Now” by Eckhart Toole is to disassociate yourself from the negative voice that you here inside your head because it isn’t the true you.

The ego is constantly trying to separate you from other people, places, situations whether it’s finding fault, passing judgement, getting irritated, fear of public ridicule. There is a negative voice inside all of our heads that is our greatest enemy. It tells us not to go to certain places or be around certain people because of preconceived ideas and fears. Just be receptive and analyze every thought that travels into your mind and see for yourself.

We have to be able to separate ourselves from this voice and become much more aware of what’s happening in the present moment.

Most thoughts are dysfunctional. The mind is an amazing tool but is often over used in a negative matter. By constantly living inside our minds and entertaining every thought that travels through our consciousness we are missing out on what is presently going on in life. We let ourselves get controlled by all these negative emotions like anger, fear, jealously, and the more we obsess on these things the worse things get.

Most addicts and alcoholics suffer from a disease of dysfunctional thinking and that is the reason why we act out in our addictions. The alcohol and drugs is the solution to quiet the negative mind function.

By reading “The Power Of Now” you will become a watcher of the thought instead of instantly identifying with it. When you begin to do this you develop a? new state of consciousness.

The “Power of Now” is a book that I highly recommend for anybody in recovery. Purchase The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment


Emmet Fox Sermon On The Mount

Emmet Fox was a mystic and biblical scholar whose writings had a profound effect on the early members of Alcoholics Anonymous and still do to this day.

Emmet Fox Sermon On The Mount was a book used by AA’s co founder Bill Wilson and the early members of Alcoholics Anonymous before the Big Book was published. Bill Wilson and his colleagues would listen to Emmet Fox speak in New York City. It’s a must have to help the reader get out of self will and develop a “God Consciousness.”

It focuses on the metaphysical teaching of Jesus Christ and how you can apply them in your life to develop the right mind set. The main premise of the book is that whatever is going on in your thought life will be produced in the material world. As within so without. Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. That life is all about how you perceive things. We have to rid ourselves of all defects of character that keep us disconnected from God such as anger, fear, greed, jealousy, etc. If we are to have a relationship with a power greater than ourselves, we need to get rid of all preconceived ideas and be completely receptive to God’s guidance by having a completely open mind. The ego is constantly trying to block us from having a relationship with God.

What did Jesus teach? Distilled from years of study and lecture, affirmed by nearly a million readers over the last fifty years, Emmet Fox’s answer in The Sermon on the Mount is simple. The Bible is a “textbook of metaphysics” and the teachings of Jesus express—without dogma—a practical approach for the development of the soul and for the shaping of our lives into what we really wish them to be. For Fox, Jesus was “no sentimental dreamer, no mere dealer in empty platitudes, but the unflinching realist that only a great mystic can be.”In his most popular work, Emmet Fox shows how to: Understand the true nature of divine wisdom. Tap into the power of prayer. Develop a completely integrated and fully expressed personality. Transform negative attitudes into life-affirming beliefs. Claim our divine right to the full abundance of life.

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Addiction is a brain disease that needs to be treated to alleviate suffering

In the big book of alcoholics anonymous it says alcoholics suffer from an obsession of the mind.

People that suffer from addiction do so because they have a mind that torments them.

drugs or alcohol is their medicine that provides temporary relief. Drugs and alcohol in the early stages aren’t the problem, they are the solution. It is an addicts thinking that is their problem. Take away an addicts drugs and their medicine is gone. And addict can refrain from drugs but they are the same people sober that they are drunk. They still have the same dysfunctional thinking.The only thing that will cure their disease is a spiritual experience.

An addicts thinking is so dysfunctional that they are constantly in conflict with people and situations. Everything is taken as a personal attack. People or situations aren’t the way they’d like them to be so addicts get upset and need relief. If people only behaved the way they are supposed to everything would be great. But what? happens they don’t and the addict gets resentful, self pitying, defiant, angry, and fearful.

Addiction is a brain disease that need to be treated daily just the same way that a diabetic needs insulin. If the addict doesn’t treat their disease of dysfunctional thinking they will suffer and not have any form of inner peace.

If an addict can come to believe that a power greater than themselves can take over their thoughts and actions they can temporarily treat the disease of addiction. Addicts are never cured of their mind disease all they have is a daily reprieve based upon the maintenance of their spiritual condition. They can have temporarily relief in the now if they let a power greater than themselves run the show.

Once the addict realizes they are powerless over people, places, and things, they can have inner peace. They can’t control how others behave or how certain situations turn out. Acceptance is the key.

addiction is a brain disease
Addiction is a brain disease. Addicts have a mind that torments them that can be treated with a spiritual experience of allowing a greater power to? take over their thoughts and actions.










Ernest Holmes does a great job of explaining this power greater than ourselves. If you are an addict or alcoholic you can take this power with you. You no longer have to run the show. You can allow this power to restore you to soundness of mind. You no longer have to suffer. The ego once you to defy this belief. One the ego is on the mind is closed. When the mind is open God is in control.

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Poppy Seed Drug Test – Poppy Seeds Show Up As Morphine

Not too long ago I was in an outpatient program for opiate addiction. It had been my third time in rehab. I was addicted to prescription pain pills (Percocet, Vicodin, Methadone, etc.)

We were required in this treatment program to urine test twice a week. Opiates will stay in your urine for four days at the most. I hadn’t used any opiates in quite a while so I wasn’t worried at all about a positive test.

Every time I’d take a urine test it would show up positive for Morphine. I didn’t know what the hell was going on, I couldn’t figure it out. Why did my urine keep testing positive for Morphine?

The counselors in the rehab called me at work on a conference call. They thought maybe I was lying to them and had been using because of the positive test for Morphine. I was perfectly honest with them and said no I haven’t been using Morphine. They said they believed me but it was a hard pill for them to swallow knowing I was an opiate addict.

I told them that I had been taking Naltrexone which had been prescribed by my psychiatrist. Naltrexone is a drug that blocks the opiate receptors in the brain. If you take opiates while on Naltrexone you won’t feel the effects so there is no point in doing them. This would give me a psychological edge against the drug, especially since I was going places where the drug was readily available. If I can’t feel the effects off opiates while on Naltrexone what’s the point? Naltrexone also helps minimize the opiate cravings too. It also works for alcohol and it’s similar to Vivitrol.

The counselors at the rehab figured that Naltrexone was what was causing my test to turn positive for opiates so they left it alone and never brought it up again. I was still puzzled. Deep down inside I didn’t think it was the Naltrexone causing the positive Morphine test. Buy a drug test to see if you are clean

Poppy Seed Drug Test

People in rehab had told me in the past about the poppy seed drug test, that poppy seeds in bagels will create a positive test for opiates in urine. I started thinking too myself, was there anything I was eating with poppy seeds in them?

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Onion bagel with poppy seeds in it.


I was eating Onion Bagels every morning from Noah’s Bagels before going to my inpatient program but those were Onion Bagels, not Poppy Seed Bagels.

I decided to take a closer look in my morning Onion Bagels and I eventually noticed the poppy seeds inside them. You couldn’t see them on the outside of the bagel, they were inside. I wish I had known poppy seeds were in Noah’s Onion Bagels ahead of time, it would of saved me a lot of grief.? I stopped eating onion bagels from Noah’s and what do you know, I stopped testing positive for Morphine.

The moral to the story is, if you don’t want to test positive for Morphine in a drug test, make sure you aren’t eating anything with poppy seeds in it because it will show up as Morphine. That’s the notorious poppy seed drug test. IT IS NOT A MYTH

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Relapse Prevention Techniques For Substance Abuse

Addicts need tools that they can reach for when they are feeling uneasy because they no longer have their drugs to treat their disease. They need to make a new habit of using healthy alternatives.

There are several relapse prevention techniques for substance abuse that an addict in sobriety can go to to feel good naturally. Being happy sober requires discipline. Remember, we are building a new character. We don’t want to go back to our old addict character.

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An addict will drive themselves nuts with anger, fear, jealousy, all different form of dysfunctional thinking. Alcohol and drugs use to be the solution to the problem until it stopped working. It would shut up the negative voice inside the head.










First and foremost, addicts need to stay away from dangerous situations. Addicts can’t hang out with fair weather friends they used to use with. Stay away from places where drugs are easily accessible. You sit in a barber shop long enough you are going to get a hair cut.


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Old addict behavior is doing drugs, laying on the couch and watching TV. This usually leads to overeating and masturbation.








Addicts Isolate from other people, lack motivation, and have a pessimistic outlook on life. They look at the glass half empty instead of half full.

In order for relapse prevention you need to set aside time before and after work for personal self care.

One Common mistake is when people get out of treatment they dive into work. DON’T DO IT. You need to work a program and take care of yourself no matter what. You may think to yourself, I’m low on money, I can skip my morning routine to start working earlier. DON’T!

So Why Do Addicts Use In Instead Of Healthy Alternatives?

  • Once you get into a routine of using drugs it’s hard to get out of. It’s immediate relief.
  • Addicts find comfort in using drugs. They don’t want to “feel.” anything unpleasant.
  • Addicts want to be numb to the world around them. When addicts are angry or in fear they want to use.
  • When addicts wallow in self pity, feel less than, or carry resentments, they want to use.
  • Addicts don’t want to feel emotional pain, they want to check out.

Self care is vital in order to stay sober. The time and money spent on drug use needs to be transferred to positives things. What does this mean? Here are some examples of some relapse prevention techniques for substance abuse?

Be Active And Don’t Isolate


Relapse Prevention Techniques For Substance Abuse






Isolating is one of the worst things and addict can do if they want to stay sober. When you isolate, you get in your head and listen to negative self talk. “Why am I home on a Friday night?” “I’m a loser” “People Suck.”

Be Involved In Group Activities:

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A lot of addicts think they can’t have any fun in sobriety. Nothing could be further from the truth.







When you are involved in a group and talk to others you are getting out of your head (a dangerous place for an addict.) Developing a network of sober friends that you can reach out to when you aren’t ok is vital in maintaining sobriety. You start to become more outgoing when you become sober and start meeting new people on a regular basis. Here are some different examples of great group activities to meet like minded people that are on the same path.

Find out what types of local activities are going on in your area.

Spiritual Reading

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The Four Books listed below will give you a positive mind set







Addicts need to develop a new character in order to be happy in sobriety. They need to change their thoughts from positive to negative. They have to do their best to live life without character defects like self pity, resentment, anger, fear. etc. The four books that have made a significant impact on my sobriety are:



Sober Meditation






Meditation is a great way to calm your mind and body. The mind is constantly in motion, thoughts come in and out. You want to be aware of the thoughts that come in and out of your mind but you don’t want to grasp on to them. Treat them like cars just passing by.

You want to do your best to remain in the present moment while meditating. I make my body feel like I’m melting in my chair after each deep breath becoming more and more relaxed. Keep your focus on your breathing. Breath in and out.

Pay close attention to different parts of your body. Focus on your feet, your legs. I know that when I start focusing on my hands I start to feel energy in them and they next thing you know, I can feel my pulse and blood rushing through them.

There are two great guided meditation apps that you can download for free. They are:

They have several guided meditations on different topics like gratitude, loving kindness, focus. They are great for beginners looking to get into meditation.

There are several more relapse prevention techniques for substance abuse. These four in particular have been key in my sobriety.

Exercise is also vital for relapse prevention especially cardio, I just haven’t worked it in to my routine yet but I need too. What’s most important to me right now is making sure that my mind is right.

Remember, surrender the old you and embrace the new you. Get your mind right first thing in the morning with spiritual reading and meditation. You make a habit of that and you’ll have more inner peace and serenity.